This was originally published on Liberal America on October 7, 2016.
I’m a vehemently childfree woman. My doctors thought I was weird to get myself fixed, but I know I don’t want children and I don’t want to pass my mental illness to a child. Many people out there slam women who are childfree by choice. They say condescending things such as:
“You’ll change your mind.”
“You’re being selfish”
“What’s wrong with you?”
Many of us who don’t have and/or don’t want kids will have pets instead. I’m a proud dog mom, and my fur babies are members of the family. One particular mommy-blogger has written a post about those of us who treat our pets like our “babies.” This hateful woman managed to piss off both childfree people and parents in a single blog post.
She made a list of things that are different about being a parent versus being a dog parent. Basically, she thinks she’s better than those of us who are dog parents. Here are some of the points on her list with my rebuttals:
My daughter ages one damn year at a time, not seven. She’s not gonna be a sweet, deaf old girl by 13.”Yes, dogs don’t live as long as people do. Everyone knows this. I guess caring for a dog doesn’t count for her since they don’t live as long, or she thinks she is better because she has to parent longer. Our pets are members of the family; wehurt and grieve for them when they are gone.
2. Babysitter Vs. Dog Sitter“
I can’t drop my daughter off somewhere and pay to have someone bathe her, and, even if I could, it would definitely be frowned upon.”First off, people hire dog sitters, so we don’t have to always board your dogs. Also, you can drop your child off with someone; it’s called a babysitter. Think through these points before slamming people.
“I can’t have her ‘fixed’; to avoid unwanted early grandmahood.”Why even point this out? Yes, we all know you can get a dog fixed, but that doesn’t make her entitled ass better than me.