This was originally published on Off The Main Page on August 16, 2017.
Did you know there are questions interviewers are not allowed to ask? Yep. If a question makes you uncomfortable, there is probably a reason for it. It is not always intentional. One in five hiring managers has asked a question only to find out later that it was a violation of labor laws.
In a CareerBuilder survey, hiring managers were given a list of questions that are illegal. Many of them didn’t know that the questions are illegal.
What types of questions are out of bounds? Companies are not allowed to ask about your age, race, ethnicity, religious affiliation, disability, plans for children, debt, whether you are pregnant, whether you drink, or whether you smoke.
Most interviewers won’t just bluntly ask you your age or religion (although it does happen). A lot of interviewers may get into illegal territory just by making small talk.
Rosemary Haefner, chief human resources officer at CareerBuilder, says:
“Casual conversation is part of the interview process. When you’re chit-chatting, sometimes the conversation turns more personal.”
Sometimes it depends on how the question is framed. For example, a manager can ask if you have been convicted of a crime, but they can’t ask about your arrest record.
“You shouldn’t be asked about information that’s not directly relevant to whether you can perform a job.”
What do you do if you are asked one of these questions? Whether or not you answer it is up to you. You can also respond to their question with a question of your own. You can say something like, “I just want to clarify how that is relevant to the job.”
This was originally published on Off The Main Page on August 16, 2017.
There are some things that you just shouldn’t do after you’ve gotten into a heated argument. Here are 5 of them:
1. Don’t Sleep On It.
This old advice is true. Don’t go to bed angry. Going to sleep “reinforces” negative emotions.
Allen Towfigh, MD, a New York City-based board certified sleep medicine doctor and neurologist, says:
“We are learning that sleep seems to help us process and consolidate information we acquire while we are awake.”
2. Don’t Drive.
Driving angry can be very dangerous. You get a tunnel-vision, and you may not see anything coming from the side of the street.
3. Don’t Vent.
Getting your anger off your chest may sound good, but it will just make you angrier later. David Narang, PhD, a clinical psychologist in Santa Monica, Calif. says:
“They feel validated in what they’re saying by venting, but they’re not less angry.”
4. Don’t Post On Facebook Or Email People.
This is a 2-in-1 tip. Don’t post about your anger on Facebook, and don’t email anyone. Once you put it online, you can never take it back.
5. Don’t Eat.
Don’t eat your feelings. Eating when you’re not hungry is not a good thing. Also, we don’t usually reach for broccoli when we are angry. We usually reach for something high in fat and/or sugar.
This was originally published on Off The Main Page on July 7, 2017.
Happy World Chocolate Day! Here are 10 great facts about chocolate to celebrate:
1. This is not the only chocolate celebration.
Today is not the only celebration of chocolate. We also have National Milk Chocolate Day on July 28, International Chocolate Day on September 13, and National Bittersweet Chocolate with Almonds Day on November 7.
2. White chocolate is not really chocolate.
I knew it! Technically, it doesn’t have any cocoa solids or chocolate liquor, so it’s not technically chocolate. It does have a bit of cocoa butter in it.
3. Marie Antoinette loved hot chocolate.
Marie Antoinette loved to drink hot chocolate at Versailles. She didn’t just love the taste, she also believed that the drink was an aphrodisiac.
4. Cacao was once used as currency.
The Aztecs loved the cacao bean so much that they used it as currency at the height of their civilization.
5. A pair of British confectioners invented solid chocolate.
In 1847, a pair of confectioners mixed cacao beans, butter, sugar, and chocolate liquor to make a solid “eating chocolate.”
6. Cocoa and cacao are the same thing.
They are both the same bean, so the words are interchangeable.
7. Making chocolate is hard work.
It takes over 400 cacao beans just to make one pound of the sweet stuff.
8. Chocolate has a very special melting point.
Chocolate melts at 93 degrees Fahrenheit, just below the human body temperature. That’s why chocolate melts so easily on your tongue.
9. Cacao trees live to be over 200 years old.
Although, they only make cacao beans for 25 years of their lifespan.
10. Napoleon loved Chocolate.
He insisted that wine and chocolate be made available for himself and his officers during intense military campaigns.
This was originally published on Off The Main Page on June 26, 2017.
For my fellow nerds, here are five different possibilities of orders to watch the Star Wars movies in:
1. Episode Order – I, II, III, IV, V, VI
According to George Lucas, this is the correct way to watch them. However, is it really the best way? If you watch the prequels first, then the whole Darth Vader is Luke’s father thing is old news. All of the good stuff becomes anticlimactic.
2. Rogue One Order – R1, IV, V, I, II, III, VI, VII
Rogue One is a standalone movie; however, its story line is closely tied to the Death Star saga. So, many fans have declared this the best way to dive into the Star Wars universe.
3. The Time Machine Order – *IV, *V, *VI, I, II, III, IV, V, VI, VII, VIII, IX
This one is basically impossible to replicate. It requires watching the original cuts of IV, V, and VI before the CGI edits of the 1990s. They haven’t been released since 2006, and Disney hasn’t made any plans to re-release them anytime soon.
4. Theatrical Release Order – IV, V, VI, I, II, III, VII, VIII, IX
This is the most obvious and popular way to experience the saga.
5. Machete Order – IV, V, II, III, VI, VII, VIII, IX
This order was first proposed by software blogger Rod Hilton in 2011. It drops the bad stuff while amplifying all of the good things in the saga. It also cuts whiny Anakin and most of the Jar-Jar Binks ridiculousness of Episode I.
This was originally published on Off The Main Page on May 10, 2017.
A new study found that, under certain circumstances, swearing can provide more pain relief than prayer. Richard Stephens from Keele University said:
“We know from our earlier research that swearing makes people more able to tolerate pain. A possible reason for this is that it stimulates the body’s sympathetic nervous system—that’s the system that makes your heart pound when you are in danger. But we have yet to understand the power of swearing fully. Swearing seems to be a form of emotional language. Perhaps it’s the emotional effect of the words that leads to the distraction, but this is just speculation at the moment.”
During the study, participants were given anaerobic and other physical tests both swearing and not swearing. The people who swore were able to produce more power on an exercise bike and on other tests. Here is what Stephens said about the power of swearing:
“When I am giving talks on the psychology of swearing I usually end with transcripts of the final utterances of fatal air crash pilots, captured on the black box flight recorder because, unsurprisingly, many of these feature swearing. I use it to emphasize an important point: that swearing must be important given its prominence in matters of life and death.”
“We appear to have established a two-way relation between swearing and emotion. Not only can swearing provoke an emotional response [as shown in the swearing and pain research] but raised emotional arousal has been shown to facilitate swearing, or at least one aspect of it, swearing fluency. These psychology studies demonstrate that there is more to swearing than routine offense-causing or a lack of linguistic hygiene. Language is a sophisticated toolkit and swearing is a useful component.”
Yeah, that’s why I do it.
This was originally published on May 17, 2017 on Liberal America.
Have you ever wanted to help organize a political campaign and didn’t know how? Well, here are some basic steps and tips to get you started.
Examining The Difference Between Organizing And Mobilizing
Organizing involves getting people together under a common cause. With organizing, you get people together and come to a consensus. Mobilizing doesn’t necessarily involve coming to a consensus, it involves taking action. Mobilizing involves creating a goal which can be measured. The best organizers are not necessarily the best mobilizers. The reasons for this are many:
1. Build Opportunities To Mobilize
First, you need to form goals for the actions that you want to start. Identify a list of priorities for your group depending on the size of your organization. If your organization is big enough, break it up into teams to accomplish multiple things.
2. Identify Friction
Many individuals already consider themselves part of a cause. Some people may join you because they agree with your beliefs. When you are organizing a group, some people will join and begin mobilizing with you. A great organization will have beliefs and actions for people who share your beliefs and for those who want to take action.
3. Build Up Your Group
Is your group small? Do you need more people to join your efforts? Try to build it up if you can. Small organizations either organize or mobilize, but they rarely have enough people to do both. They either meet and socialize or they mobilize.
We’ve covered the bare minimum basics here just to get you started. Chris Reeves at Daily Kos has an entire series on organizing and mobilizing, covering everything from the beginnings of an idea to completion of your efforts. He has titled it the Nuts & Bolts Guide and we highly recommend heading over there to check it out (it’s free to look, so what’s the harm, right? You’re not gone yet?)
h/t: Chris Reeves at Daily Kos — Thank you Chris, for your dedication and persistence!
Here are some of the best TED talks out there on the subject of mental health:
This comic talks about struggling with depression:
This is a powerful talk about schizophrenia:
Another great one on schizophrenia:
This is about the funnier side of mental illness:
A great one about the struggle of talking about mental illness:
This was originally published on Liberal America on April 4, 2017.
Before you close this window, realize I’m not talking about all Christians. This list, however, is pretty crazy. Dr. Dave Williams gives 11 things that Christians should do if the Rapture is happening and God doesn’t take them.
1. Don’t Believe The Media
.Yes, of course, the first thing he says is to not believe the “secular media.”
2. Ditch Your Cell Phone.
Whelp, I guess your cell phone is evil if you don’t get raptured. They believe that you will be tracked using your phone.
3. Don’t Kill Yourself.
One this part of the list, he says:
“Whenever there’s social disorder and confusion, people tend to think suicide is the only way out. It’s not. You probably feel hopeless, but there is still hope. The Holy Spirit will still be working during the final shabua. Pray and ask Him to guide you, give you strength and dwell in you.”
4. Repent Immediately
Yep, so if God doesn’t take you during the Rapture, then you must still pray to him. Makes total sense.
5. Have A Bible.
Again, God didn’t pick you as one of the “chosen,” so you still have to read his book and pray to him.
6. Leave Your House And Get Out Of The Cities
Good apocalypse advice.
Again, you didn’t get chosen, so you still have to pray to the God that didn’t choose you?
8. Don’t Go To Church.
Dr. Williams says:
“That’s right—don’t go to church or join the world conglomerate religion because it will be under the control of the false prophet (Rev. 13). All true, godly ministers have left the earth in the rapture. Do not believe the lies of the ministers who are left behind. Even if you see miracles and apparent wonders, do not believe them. They are lying wonders (Matt. 24:24; Mark 13:22; Luke 21; 2 Thess. 2:9). Deception will be the order of the day. Delusion will be everywhere, especially in ‘churches.'”
9. Get A Small Radio.
This is also good apocalypse advice. Also, remember to double-tap the zombies.
10. Keep Praying For Loved Ones.
“God will still answer prayers during the Tribulation. Your prayers may be the key to seeing your loved ones again after this period of supreme agony is over.”
11. Spread The List.
Of course, Dr. Williams says that you should spread this list everywhere.
Additionally, he ends the article saying that there are more Rapture tips along the way. This is one of the most ridiculous conspiracy theories I’ve seen.
Here are a few mental health memes for your Monday:
From Mental Health Memes:
Also, via Mental Health Memes:
Another great one from Mental Health Memes:
One of my favorite paintings on a meme via Bipolar Owl:
Great one from Bipolar Owl:
Great one from Chronic Illness Cat:
This was originally published on Off The Main Page on March 20, 2017.
The White House appliances see many things. President Obama didn’t need to be spied on, but President Donald Trump is doing shady things.
The White House break rooms see all. Kellyanne Conway told on the microwaves, so now the coffee maker and the toaster have taken over surveillance of the President.
The microwave was glad to leave and not have to see the Orange Menace in his bathrobe anymore. It could only heat up so many chicken nuggets and Big Macs. Also, that one Palin lady couldn’t spell or pronounce microwave.
The coffee maker has seen some stuff as well. Donald Trump can’t even pronounce or spell espresso, yet alone actually make one. He makes anyone who is standing near it make it for him. He claims he is in a hurry every time. The coffee maker also has to deal with this Russian guy, and there’s this weird vodka smell in the coffee is.
The poor toaster has to deal with so much. It toasts bread and nasty McDonald’s buns for the president. Those burgers can smell bad to a toaster that is used to making just bread.
Of course, the bread has changed recently. The bags say “BK” on them, and the president grumbles something about a tweet when he heats them up. I guess McDonald’s pissed him off.