This was originally published on Off The Main Page on August 16, 2017.
There are some things that you just shouldn’t do after you’ve gotten into a heated argument. Here are 5 of them:
1. Don’t Sleep On It.
This old advice is true. Don’t go to bed angry. Going to sleep “reinforces” negative emotions.
Allen Towfigh, MD, a New York City-based board certified sleep medicine doctor and neurologist, says:
“We are learning that sleep seems to help us process and consolidate information we acquire while we are awake.”
2. Don’t Drive.
Driving angry can be very dangerous. You get a tunnel-vision, and you may not see anything coming from the side of the street.
3. Don’t Vent.
Getting your anger off your chest may sound good, but it will just make you angrier later. David Narang, PhD, a clinical psychologist in Santa Monica, Calif. says:
“They feel validated in what they’re saying by venting, but they’re not less angry.”
4. Don’t Post On Facebook Or Email People.
This is a 2-in-1 tip. Don’t post about your anger on Facebook, and don’t email anyone. Once you put it online, you can never take it back.
5. Don’t Eat.
Don’t eat your feelings. Eating when you’re not hungry is not a good thing. Also, we don’t usually reach for broccoli when we are angry. We usually reach for something high in fat and/or sugar.